I often hear people say ‘I don’t really have any goals’. This statement simply demonstrates their lack of understanding of how goals actually work. You see, the human mind is always pursuing something, even if its nothing more than avoiding trouble and pain!
We all have goals. The problem is, for many people, they’re not aware of them! Most people’s goals are to ‘pay the bills’, ‘get by’, or to ‘make it to the end of the month and still have some cash left’- basically, they’re caught up in the trap of making a living rather than designing a life! None of those goals would give you the motivation you need to tap into the vast reserve of personal power within you!
We have to remember that our goals affect us, whatever they are. The best way I can describe this is using the metaphor of a garden. If we don’t consciously plant the seeds of what we want in the garden, it becomes overrun with weeds. Weeds are just automatic, unfortunately we don’t have to put any effort in to get them!
If we really want to see what we’re capable of and I know you do; we need to find a goal that is going to challenge us. Something that will push us beyond our limits and outside of our comfort zones- that’s the only way that you really see what you’re capable of.
The most important key in goal setting is to find a goal big enough to inspire you, something that will force you out of your comfort zone, something that will show you what you’re made of! The way I know I’ve set the right level goal for me is when it seems far-fetched, it seems impossible but at the same time, the idea of actually achieving it makes me crazy excited. What would that be for you? Something that seems far-fetched but at the same time, the idea of it makes you crazy excited. Would it be to travel the world? Would it be to be a black belt in karate? Would it be to have your own business? Would it be to have your own home? In order to truly find that inspiration and achieve those impossible goals, we have to suspend our negative beliefs about what we’re capable of achieving.
So, what’s stopping you? What’s holding you back? What’s getting in your way? I know that you’ve heard of goal setting before, I know that this isn’t new stuff to you. But even though we both know that you know this, do you actually have a list of clearly defined goals for the results that you absolutely will produce in your life? Mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually? What’s stopped you?
For many people, it’s the unconscious fear of disappointment. Most of the time, we say fear but we’re not afraid of fear, we’re afraid of something and for most of us, it is disappointment and failure. Most of us have set goals in the past and failed to achieve them and as a result of the pain of that experience and the desire to avoid that feeling in the future, we stop setting goals. We don’t want to have expectations that are going to get dashed! If we don’t expect to see the world and travel, then we won’t be disappointed if we don’t. Does that sound familiar?
So, how do some people tap into that that inner strength and reserve which allows them to dig deep and keep going despite their fear? Research has shown that they have the ability to screen what their mind pays attention to. Our minds can only focus on a certain number of things at any one time, so our brain spends a lot effort deciding what not to pay attention to. There are countless stimuli bombarding you at every moment of the day but your brain deletes most of it and focuses on what you believe is important.
Once you actually make the decision that something is a priority, you give it tremendous emotional intensity and by continuing to focus on it, by keeping your eye on the ball- any resource that will support you in achieving your goal will become clear. This is why it’s not important to understand exactly how you will achieve your goals when you first set them. Remember, often they seem impossible. Trust that by making the decision and continually focusing on it, you will find everything that you need along the way.
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Until next time, start thinking about what you really want!