I have a big question to ask you………………...Do you believe in you?
I’ve spent a lot of time over the past few years working on increasing my self- belief and one of the books that really caught my attention was Susan Jeffers well known book ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’. In that book, the main question Susan asks is ‘Could you handle it?’ If the worst case scenario happened- could you handle it? Personally I didn’t like the book- it actually annoyed me but I know that it was because at the time I was reading it; I was still too scared to move on with my life! (I really should give it another try!)
But the question ‘Could you handle it?’ made a lot of sense because the answer would pretty much be yes (even though I refused to admit it to myself at the time!) I wouldn’t like it, it might hurt a lot, it might cost money, people might reject me, I might fail, it might make me cry, it might make me lose face, I might want to hide for a decade but ultimately whatever the worst case scenario was, if I was truly honest with myself; I could actually handle it. It was an interesting way to look at life!
Many people think that self-belief is just a buzzword that motivational speakers throw into their speeches and that a high level of self-belief is not something that is attainable for the likes of you and me- therefore it isn’t important. What do you think? Does it matter whether or not you believe in yourself?
Well, here’s an answer for you! In one of the most detailed studies ever conducted into the effects of self-belief on performance, the psychologist Albert Bandura discovered that a person’s genuine beliefs about their abilities can be a more accurate predictor of their future levels of performance than any actual results they had achieved in the past! How incredible is that!
In other words, the way you think about yourself in relation to the challenges in your life will have a profound effect on your ability to succeed. The mechanism by which this works is one you have heard before, it is ‘self-fulfilling prophecy’.
You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe- Oprah Winfrey
There is a story that when Michelangelo was asked how he carved such beautiful angels, he replied, ‘I see the angel in the stone, and I chip away at everything around it’. Boosting your self-belief and self-esteem is a lot like that! It’s not about pretending to be someone that you’re not; it’s about recognising the magnificence of who you are already and allowing that to shine out!
I hope you enjoyed this issue of Progress! Please feel free to get in touch and share any of your thoughts or ideas with me via email/facebook/twitter! I’d love to hear from you! Also, if you have a topic or question you would like me to address, please just let me know!
Until next time, believe in you and make it happen!