Monthly Archives: July 2017

You spoke, I listened…..

Confidence…… These are the issues.

Over the past few months, I’ve been asking you guys to help me out with a bit of research around confidence. I wanted to put together a FREE resource for you around confidence which I did and starts on 10th July! You can sign up below!

But I wanted to share the feedback that I received because it is incredible. So many of us surrender to supportfeelscared, feel like we’re not good enough and a lack of confidence and we feel very alone in that. Here are the voices of your sisters… you are not alone in this.

I put together the FREE 7 Days to Boost Your Confidence Challenge together with the ‘I am More Than Enough‘ facebook community to work with you to get the results you want. I would love to see you there!

What is the main problem or frustration that you experience regarding your current levels of confidence?

  • That line between feeling confident and arrogant seems very blurred. There’s always a fear that becoming more confident makes you appear arrogant even if you’re not.
  • Work related as new job at a higher level! #impostersyndrome
  • Not believing in myself. Not feeling good enough so that I don’t go or do what I want to do.
  • Little voice inside my head saying you will fail
  • Maintaining my confidence levels. Caring about what others think.
  • I am not excelling, I’m afraid of rocking the boat to get my work needs and relationship needs met.
  • Speaking to the public (giving talks/workshops). Body confidence. Confidence in my own skills/knowledge.
  • What people called quarter life crisis. Always dream to live somewhere abroad but now stuck in the country ( Indonesia) not the strongest passport at all. SO hard to get around, need a work visa at least to be somewhere like Europe/ Australia as I really want to live there.
  • I have worked part-time for the last 7 years after my two children were born. Having a happy and busy family life my career has taken a back seat I have lost my confidence in my skills and abilities. Still want a good work life balance but feel trapped to stay in part time role as it suits family needs but I’m not getting and professional development or much job satisfaction.
  • Finding it hard to speak up for myself. Not believing I’m worth it
  • External factors such as other people’s opinions always affect my confidence
  • No belief in myself
  • Feeling not assertive enough
  • Always second guessing myself, comparing myself to skinnier and better organised parents than me
  • No get up and go. Faltering on setting the wheels in motion for my new business
  • Being stuck in a cycle of feeling anxious about something and backing out but then feeling like I’m missing out.
  • Focusing on results before I’ve even experimented which is probably rooted in a fear of failing
  • Not being able to get my point across
  • Not feeling good enough. Prevents me from doing things
  • I will be doing great confidence-wise and then one small thing will happen and knock it completely, taking precedence over the much greater amount of positive evidence. I am then frustrated that I allow things to affect me so much and that just adds to overall feeling of sh*ttiness! This goes for general confidence and also body confidence (one bad photo makes me feel terrible about myself even if most days I’m feeling good about my body)
  • Preventing me from putting myself forward for opportunities or believing in myself
  • Doubting myself and my current choices because people seem to think *they know better* and when they ask you what are you doing and you reply taking some time off to figure out my next move the look on their faces tell me it’s the end of the world…but I know myself it’s what’s best for me. Hard to keep the confidence up sometimes when people want to bring you down…but I ain’t settling for what they have to say because I know in my heart what is best for me
  • Not being able to communicate as confidently as I would like; Not feeling as confident with networking, making new friends, confronting conflict Need serious work on decision making abilities Motivation to meet goals
  • Lack of self confidence especially when things go wrong
  • Holding myself back, knowing it and not being able to change it
  • I lack confidence in my abilities and second guess myself. Also constantly second guessing what people think
  • fear getting in the way, feeling not “enough”
  • Self criticism
  • I doubt whether I would be good at things. Also when it comes to dating my confidence levels would be low,
  • Job, relationships (like friendship)
  • Competitiveness at work / social situations
  • Past experience of constantly being knocked back
  • It can be shaken very easily
  • Let what others think affect me too much. I also find it hard to complement myself on anything eg. job well done, losing weight…
  • Self worth. Putting value on my creative time etc.
  • Not very confident in my looks, holds me back in relationships, trying to people-please. Tend to procrastinate, get worried.
  • Self doubt
  • Self Esteem, Social Perceptions
  • The fear of success. The fear of demonstrating my knowledge to other people.
  • Not standing up for myself to my employer
  • I’m not assertive enough in work. As a teacher we were never taught in college how to stand up to parents or principal and I now find myself losing sleep over school! I’m always afraid that if I stand up for myself I’ll end up crying or come across as a b!tch.
  • Received a lot of knockbacks in recent months through turmoil in romantic and platonic relationships. Also feel like everyone else my age have their lives sewn up
  • Anytime I’m trying something new or different, I sometimes tell myself that ‘I won’t be able to do this/I’m not good enough’. That negative self talk decreases my level of confidence within myself from time to time.
  • I am very big and always think/assume people think the worst of me, I can also be a yes person or not voice my opinion in order to avoid any confrontation or debate with others, I always feel they know more about a topic than me so Ill automatically come out looking bad
  • I constantly worry about what other people think of me and my life choices.
  • Confidence in certain areas of my life but not in others
  • Self belief & maintaining it despite other people’s opinions criticisms or negativity on careers etc.
  • Not thinking I’m good enough for role or do start my own business or follow a dream
  • Can’t get the confidence to go for what I want re career, relationships and trying new hobbies
  • In work I don’t have the confidence I know I have inside
  • I wish to leave my relationship but feel guilty, like by leaving, I am implying I’m too good for him, which is not the case. I’m simply unhappy.
  • Self esteem and let it go issues
  • my abundance of self doubt
  • Personal self belief
  • I’m unable to talk to any man I like due to assuming they find me boring or not as pretty as other girls. I’m also about to finish a college course and very anxious about applying for jobs as I am not at all good at “selling myself” on a cv.
  • Self doubting

 

What result would you ideally like to get from this confidence course?

  • Tips to work on confidence!
  • Self Acceptance
  • To be able to be comfortable in my own skin
  • The balls to be able to stand up for myself at work and with friends
  • Tools to help keep on track with confidence, tools to help if you have a dip.
  • I would like to feel like I’m worth coming first.
  • The courage to develop my knowledge and skills possibly create my own consultancy business.
  • A sense of self worth
  • The ability to be able to stop people unwanted opinion affecting my own confidence
  • Self respect and the ability to set boundaries and keep them, belief in myself
  • Skills to be more confident in various situations
  • Just to feel good being me
  • To not continuously second guess myself and compare myself to others who are already established etc
  • Have the confidence in myself to make a decision without second guessing myself and worrying about what other people think.
  • Taking more risks
  • To be braver and not put myself down
  • Tips on nipping self doubt in the bud/dealing with moments that knock your confidence
  • A more positive outlook or tools to help when confidence levels become low
  • Feeling more confident in everyday activities – presenting to people, valuing my own opinion and voice, meeting new people, not doubting my decisions or struggling to make a decision
  • Be more comfortable and confident in myself in work and dealing with set backs
  • That my confidence levels are boosted. Also that I believe in myself.
  • Get confidence on meeting and approaching people, felling more secure.
  • To become more assertive
  • Strategies to create and maintain meaningful relationships
  • An increased overall boost to confidence
  • Skill to keep my on track . Ability to be happy in my own skin with the life I have
  • Tools to put value on myself and believe it so that others out value on my time.
  • Have a more get up and go attitude and stop procrastinating.
  • Belief in myself and trust in myself
  • Inner self belief, joint shared perceptions with others on confidence strategies.
  • To gain courage to simplify a tasks so that I can be more efficient with my time and effort. To let go of my need to complicate things and make things difficult when they are already running smoothly!
  • being able to stand up for myself to my boss
  • Assertiveness skills. Not to let comments about how I look (from my sisters!) affect me.
  • A feeling like I’m being true to myself and a feeling of loving who I am
  • I’d like a few techniques on how to silence my mind monkeys. I’d like to learn how to be more confident without coming across as too cocky/arrogant at the same time.
  • To not care so much what others think of me, and maybe realise my own worth
  • more confidence to just be comfortable with my decisions and to think less about what other people may be thinking about me
  • Strategies on how to build your self-belief and how to disregard others input and beliefs
  • believe in myself
  • Be able to accept disappointment and failure without affecting my confidence. Also to improve my general outlook and motivation
  • More self stem and guidance in life
  • to grab life by the scruff of the neck and just go for it!
  • Motivation to change/ feel inspired
  • More self esteem, I’d like to spend less time worrying and more time doing.
  • The tools to use in my daily life to use myself when the course is over

 

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